Everybody’s got a button. You know, that one thing that really sets them off. We often talk in terms of “that guy really knows how to push my buttons.” The Free Dictionary defines this idiom as “drawing a strong emotional reaction from someone, especially anger or frustration. For example, My mother-in-law really knows how to push my buttons. Not really…just an example.
One of my buttons, that tends to set me off is this: Don’t show me any appreciation for something that I do for you. I mean, come on. If I take the time to help you or give something to you, at least show me a little appreciation…right?
Here’s the problem. We live in an age of entitlement. By virtue of name, title, age, social class, education or looks, many feel entitled to something or in some cases…everything. In fact, it’s difficult to get an acknowledgement or thank you from someone who feels entitled. That may bug you and it may bug me, but it’s indicative of the age we live in. Hopefully, we teach and train our kids to avoid this sense of privilege. But I digress. Back to my button. If this lack of appreciation sets you off, here’s my suggestion born out of two scripture passages.
Luke 6:35 But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return; and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High; for He Himself is kind to ungrateful and evil men.
1 Peter 2:20 But how is it to your credit if you receive a beating for doing wrong and endure it? But if you suffer for doing good and you endure it, this is commendable before God.
Understand your buttons are your buttons. Understand that a person’s comments or lack of comments doesn’t have anything to do with you. Take your cues from Jesus. You may surprise yourself when those buttons don’t seem to bother you as much.