Hate is such a strong word. But as strong as it is, we use it indiscriminately. For example, we’ve all used it like this: I hate this restaurant. I hate the weather. I hate my homework. Consider how this can be a problem. The more you say you hate something, the easier it is to tell your mind you’re angry about other things. It’s also easy to move from anger toward things to anger and hatred of people. Now we understand this is probably “hyperbole”, exaggeration for the sake of emphasis. But using the word as we often do isn’t healthy. Trouble seems to follow it. In fact, Proverbs 10:12 says “Hate stirs up trouble, but love forgives all offenses.”
When you feel that burning sensation in your heart or the pit of your stomach, or you think your head is going to explode, remember there are consequences to unchecked anger that can damage you. Those emotions often show us what we find intolerable in other people, ourselves, and in life.
What is a simple 1,2,3 approach to dealing with anger?
Control it. Don’t hide it or bury it, but learn the wisdom of Proverbs 29:11 “Fools vent their anger, but the wise quietly hold it back.”
Think it through. The Scriptures remind us to be slow to get angry. Think through the situation. As you re-evaluate the situation or the person you might begin to see things from another perspective.
Give it back. Not to them, but to God. Psalm 55:22 Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken.