Grieving well

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Today’s blog has to do with a subject that many of us avoid. It’s the subject of grieving, or maybe better said, “grieving well.” We tend to think of grieving as a major season in our lives. Like the loss of a loved one or a career change. It would certainly include a divorce or even an estranged relationship with a child or a parent.

Anytime there is a major change like that, we grieve. You grieve a lost friendship. You grieve the “hole” that’s left in your life. You grieve a financial loss. But in every instance, that loss takes a toll. The toll is certainly emotional, but it can also be physical and spiritual. There’s a vacuum where significant people dwelt. The result is a deep darkness that feels like your life will never be the same.

Here’s what I know. Time, a focus on God’s provision, a significant friend, and a deep relationship with God’s Word will help. We could probably all take a cue from Job found in the Bible in the book with his name.  In 24 hours, he lost everything that mattered to him. Talk about loss. Talk about pain. How do you navigate that? He sat alone, but not without conversations with God. Can I be so bold as to say, a heated difficult conversation with God? Questions that would remain unanswered and yet he still asked them. At the end of the narrative of his life, God was pleased with Job, even his heated questions. Why? Because Job chose to go to God with his grief. He trusted God with his future. He rested his case with the righteous Judge. Job did not feel compelled to answer all the questions or unravel all the burning enigmas. God would judge. The Judge would be right.

Loss is loss and there’s no sugarcoating to it. But here are some things to consider in the midst of grief. Grieve alone, but also grieve with other trusted friends. Express your grief with God, including all the emotion that goes with it. Allow time for God to soothe the intensity of your grief. Focus on future joy. Grief, loss, heartache, and sorrow are excruciating, but there is hope for the future.  Psalm 73:26 says My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart, my portion forever.

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