Some Lessons We've Learned

Over the last 40 years of ministry

Parental Balance

By boblehman / February 18, 2020

Have you ever spent time around parents that feel they have to provide every opportunity and activity for their kids because they were “neglected” themselves in their own childhood? Maybe you’ve heard them say, “I promised myself I would never do that to my kids.” Maybe you’ve even said it yourself. It actually sounds pretty…

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You’re not alone!

By boblehman / February 11, 2020

Despair and depression do something to you. The way you think changes. There is a strong tendency to be more self-centered focusing on your issues solely. The nature of depression is interesting. Here’s a quick primer. According to Web MD, most people feel sad or depressed at times. It’s a normal reaction to loss or…

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By boblehman / February 4, 2020

The Super Bowl is this weekend. Like a lot of you, I enjoy watching the game. Secretly, I REALLY enjoy watching the Super Bowl commercials. They’re usually creative and funny. They’re so popular, that they “leak” them to the public before the big game. I happened to see Google’s commercial today. It’s a conversation of…

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Celebrating with another

By boblehman / January 28, 2020

Why is it so hard to celebrate the successes of others? It might be because of jealousy. defines jealousy this way: resentment against a rival, a person enjoying success or advantage, or against another’s success or advantage itself. Jealousy is a normal emotion that just about everyone experiences. But, jealousy can grow into anger…

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A high calling

By boblehman / January 21, 2020

I’m not sure when it happened, but it is pretty much understood that pleasing someone else is a negative thing. You know, “doing the will” of another. US News recently said this about the practice. “It can erode your sense of integrity — and you can start feeling bad about yourself.”  If your motivation for…

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Day to day anxiety

By boblehman / January 14, 2020

Those of you who fight anxiety on a day to day basis know this simple fact. It can raise it’s ugly head just when you’ve got a handle on it. In fact, you may find yourself dumbfounded…”where did that come from?” “I thought I was past that.” The hard reality is simply this, “there are…

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Like or Dislike?

By boblehman / January 7, 2020

What do you like to do? Sports, skydiving, eat chocolate, parenting, business endeavors, hobbies? What is it for you? I love to exercise, hanging with my family, coffee with friends, helping people navigate their relationship with God. Those are all in my “like” category. But let me ask you this: What is in your “don’t…

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Well-intentioned dragons

By boblehman / December 31, 2019

I just received one of “those” emails. Well-intentioned. Not caustic but very directive on what I should do in a particular situation. I want to be open to people speaking into my life. All of us are full of blind spots. We need people who can see what we don’t see. Even more, people who…

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It’s just the way I am

By boblehman / December 24, 2019

Have you ever caught yourself saying, “that’s just the way I am.”? Maybe you lose your temper for a moment. Maybe you find yourself rarely finishing a project. Maybe your patience with your kids or your spouse isn’t what it should be. In the moment of frustration, you find yourself justifying your actions with those…

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A guarantee for a peaceful Christmas

By boblehman / December 17, 2019

Christmas can be difficult…especially the older we get. When we were young, everything was amazing, fresh, and new. There was a wonder surrounding everything. The early traditions of decorating the tree, buying the presents, caroling to neighbors, being at church all have a discovery attached to them. But here’s the reality: As a child, we…

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