Some Lessons We've Learned

Over the last 40 years of ministry

LYING – Issues of Integrity

By boblehman / September 4, 2018

Ever see the movie, “Liar, Liar”? Sure you did. This guy, by a twist of fate, is compelled to tell the truth, no matter what. No white lies, nothing. Sounds laughable. Why’d we laugh?  Because we’ve all been there at one time or another. A time when a lie just slips out.  Some people couldn’t…

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TURNING A BLIND EYE – Issues of Integrity

By boblehman / September 4, 2018

We tend to ignore things when it’s convenient. To turn a blind eye.  Martin Luther King, Jr.said, “To ignore evil is to become an accomplice to it.” He was right. The Bible puts it this way in Isaiah 5:20 “Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who put darkness for light and light…

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TRUST IN THE CALL NOT YOUR CREDENTIALS – Issues of Confidence

By boblehman / September 3, 2018

There is yet another great principle I’ve learned from the story of Noah’s Ark. It’s pretty simple but a hard one to keep in perspective. Remember that the ark was built by amateurs and the Titanic was built by professionals. This is a principle that is quickly becoming lost in the “professionalism” of America. It’s…

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FRIENDSHIPS – Issues of Community

By boblehman / August 30, 2018

If you have kids, you might remember the nursery rhyme that goes something like this: “The animals went in two by two, Hurrah! Hurrah! The elephant and the kangaroo, Hurrah! Hurrah! The animals went in two by two, the elephant and the kangaroo.” Pretty catchy lyrics, huh?! The two by two part reminded me of…

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SECRETS AND HIDDENNESS – Issues of Fear

By boblehman / August 29, 2018

The Secret Life When I was in college, I was in a fraternity. For the most part, it was an amazing experience. Lots of fun. Great friends. A brotherhood with a common bond. We even accomplished several community and campus projects. One of the bonds holding the fraternity together was the initiation into membership. I’m…

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DEALING WITH PAIN – Issues of Fear, Relationships

By boblehman / August 26, 2018

Sickness brings out the best and the worst in all of us. We live in the real world and the reality of illness is a given. We have to deal with it. Most of the time, sickness is recoverable. You know… coughs, colds and the occasional projectile vomit. It’s part of growing up. It’s a…

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PASTOR’S FEAR AND ANXIETY – Issues of Fear, Depression, Anxiety

By boblehman / August 26, 2018

Okay. It’s time for some gut wrenching transparency. I’m afraid and I’ve spent the greater part of my adult life living with fear and anxiety. Does that surprise you… especially when you realize that I’m a pastor of a great church. Where’s the faith baby? Why don’t you apply what you teach? Don’t you believe…

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FRIENDSHIP – Relationships

By boblehman / August 24, 2018

Some people are “people magnets.” The people who are always surrounded by a plethora of people. Don’t you love that word, “plethora?” It means an overabundance. In high school I envied people magnets. They were the life of the party, the center of conversations, the talk of campus. Most often, not always, they were the…

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PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY – Issues of Integrity

By boblehman / August 22, 2018

Personal Responsibility According to the 21st century bastion of knowledge, Wikipedia, the expression “passing the buck” is said to have originated from poker, in which a marker was used to indicate the person whose turn it was to deal. If the player did not wish to deal he could pass the responsibility by passing the…

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PARENTS AND KIDS – Issues of Family

By boblehman / August 11, 2018

My kids are grown. They have their own families. We are enjoying a great season of life now… a richness of conversation, time and activity together that is incredibly significant. I heard a quote years ago from former president George H.W. Bush. In an interview with his wife, he was asked what was his most…

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APATHY – Issues of Fear, Relationships

By boblehman / August 11, 2018

If the opposite of up is down, and the opposite of right is left, then the opposite of love is hate, right? Not so fast. The opposite of love is NOT hate. Why? Because with the word Love, people have feelings and think about another person. And with hate, it is same with different intentions. So the opposite…

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WISE PARENTS – Issue of Parenting, Relationships

By boblehman / August 11, 2018

There is a name that brings an image to mind. It’s the image of sweaty palms, butterflies in your stomach, a quick trip to the bathroom, an internal conversation that goes something like, “Why would someone do that?” or “you must be out of your mind.” The name is Nik Wallenda. He was born into…

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KIDS CRAVE ATTENTION – Issues of Parenting, Relationships

By boblehman / August 4, 2018

Have you ever spent time with an attention grabber? You know what an attention grabber is, don’t you? It’s the person who has to be first, has to be the center of attention, or has to be the dominant voice in a conversation. I’m sure as an adult you been to a party or function…

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STORY TELLING – Issues of Parenting

By boblehman / August 3, 2018

Reading to kids or telling pretend stories to your kids or grandkids is becoming a lost art. It’s not that we don’t think it’s important. There isn’t a parent on the planet who doesn’t see the importance and relevance of reading stories or telling bedtime stories to their kids. It’s just that we’re on the…

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ABUSE OF PRIVILEGE – Issues of Integrity

By boblehman / July 31, 2018

Everybody likes a deal. Who doesn’t? In fact, we love to tell our friends and neighbors our “deal stories.” You know what I mean? “You’re not going to believe what happened to us! We got a discount to the concert and saved sooooo much money!!” In fact, we will play “top my story” when we…

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LEADING IN YOUR FAMILY – Issues of Parenting

By boblehman / July 31, 2018

I heard someone say that libraries are going away. People just don’t read paper books anymore. Bookstores themselves don’t have the foot traffic they once had. There are a few exceptions, but those exceptions usually have a Starbucks in the lobby. Seems there’s no time to sit and read when there are so many other…

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MODELING – Issues of Parenting

By boblehman / July 31, 2018

People watching. It’s a national pastime. I was hanging out in Atlanta’s airport, killing the four hour delay I was experiencing. I’ve learned to deal with it. It’s a part of traveling and people watching fills the gap. Now it’s interesting to see the variety of people for sure, but what really captivates me is…

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RESPONDING TO MISTAKES – Relationships

By boblehman / July 22, 2018

I’m not sure where it was originally said, but people generally don’t disagree with the following statement: “Errors, miscalculations, and blunders are the “unforgivable sin” in today’s society.” You’ve grown up with it and your kids live it in our world today. Failure is not an option. I think it was Vince Lombardi who said…

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DISAPPOINTMENT – Relationships, Personal Health

By boblehman / July 11, 2018

Have you ever run into a movie aficionado who has practically memorized every line from their favorite movie? Not just the familiar ones…but all of the lines, like they were an understudy? I’m not quite that bad, but when it comes to “The Princess Bride,” I’m pretty close. One great exchange between Inigo Montoya and the Man…

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CRITICISM – Issues of Fear

By boblehman / July 6, 2018

Allow me continue the lessons of Noah’s Ark with the theme “All I really need to know I learned from Noah’s Ark.” Today’s lesson is simply this… Don’t listen to Critics. Do what has to be done. The story of Noah includes a hundred years of daily criticism from people who didn’t know what they…

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UNKINDNESS – Issues of Parenting, Relationships

By boblehman / July 4, 2018

Mean people are the WORST! They just are. Sorry for being so direct, but it fits. I don’t know what the percentages are, but I’m sure there are more nice people than mean people in the world. Now, it depends on the circles you operate in, but we all rub shoulders with this demographic of…

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MAKING CHOICES – Issues of Integrity

By boblehman / June 17, 2018

There is another great principle I’ve learned from the story of Noah’s Ark. It sort of states the obvious, are you ready: Build on High Ground. While this might seem pretty obvious, there is great truth in this principle. In looking more closely, I believe this is actually two smaller truths: 1) When you have a…

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WISE PLANNING – Issues of Vision

By boblehman / June 3, 2018

One of the most popular books in bookstores over the past 20 years is “All I Really Need to Know I Learned From Kindergarten”. About 10 years ago, someone wrote an article called “All I Really Need to Know I Learned from Noah’s Ark.” They were funny, but they definitely had a sense of practical wisdom. After…

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A HEART FOR ADVENTURE – Issues of Parenting

By boblehman / June 3, 2018

Teaching is a noble profession. I think you’d have a hard time finding someone who doesn’t believe that. However, if most people are high on teachers, I can’t figure out why they are paid so poorly… but I digress. A good friend of mine was teaching a gathering of teachers hoping to hone their skills.…

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PURSUE LOVE – Relationships

By boblehman / May 22, 2018

Pursuing Love As Americans, we are told that we have the right to pursue happiness. The Declaration of Independence states that man has three unalienable rights: “life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.” It is a fact that Americans are constantly in the pursuit of happiness. As a nation, we think that money, good looks, things, a secure…

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TRUTH AND PEER PRESSURE – Issues of Integrity

By boblehman / April 22, 2018

How to Combat the lie of Peer Pressure What causes so many of us to believe that we must have everyone’s love and approval? This is the mantra of today’s junior high and high school campuses, and it’s a conversation we have with our kids more and more often. “Nobody loves me, nobody cares…mom, dad you…

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STUBBORN HEART – Issues of Integrity

By boblehman / March 31, 2018

Oftentimes, we tell ourselves lies. More often than not, I believe it is our sin nature that convinces us of what we think should be the truth rather than reality, but somehow the made-up truth makes us feel better. One of the more frequent lies I hear is “I can’t be happy unless everything goes…

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Soul Shepherding

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Beggar’s Daughter

: A ministry dedicated to walking with women who have an addiction to pornography.
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XXXchurch

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Net Nanny

Net Nanny protects families and helps them manage their experiences with digital content. Parents, spouses, guardians, and educators are given visibility and control in managing a child’s online experience.
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Enough is Enough

Enough Is Enough®; (EIE), a non-partisan, 501(c)(3) non-profit organization, emerged in 1994 as the national leader on the front lines to make the Internet safer for children and families. Since then, EIE has pioneered efforts to confront online pornography, child pornography, child stalking, sexual predation, and other forms of online victimization. By leveraging its expertise, growing national partnership network, and positive reputation among the public, media, law enforcement, and Internet industry, EIE continues to advance innovative initiatives and effective communication strategies to protect children online.
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Every Man Ministries

With a mission to create a movement of God’s men who are empowered to lead others on a meaningful journey into personal character and leadership, ultimately having a positive impact on generations of women, children and families.
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New Life Spirit Recovery

To educate, equip, treat and deliver Christ-centered solution to struggling addicts and alcoholics and their family members. To take our message and testimony of freedom from addiction through Jesus Christ to the community, church and beyond.
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Freedom in Christ Ministries

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RickThomas.Net

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PornProof Kids

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