Posts by boblehman

Learning styles

Maybe you’ve heard of the term “learning style.” Although it can refer to a number of different things, I’d like to focus on the three most common types: visual, audio, and kinesthetic.  Now what are we talking about? Simply, we all have different ways for processing information. We tend to “lean into certain methods over…

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God shows up

What does it mean when we say, “God really showed up!” We tend to say that from time to time when we’re in the middle of an awesome Christian concert or at a moving church service. It can be an expression used when you have a difficult conversation with someone, and it turns out positively.…

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Disagreements

People don’t always agree, but you know that. But here are some questions to consider: “How do you communicate with someone that you disagree with?” “What happens if that person is a relative, close friend, or even a colleague?” The number one response is often avoidance. Don’t bring it up. Ignore the issue. But is this…

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True generosity

I don’t know if you’ve thought about this but generosity has little to do with money. It doesn’t. It has to do with heart, with attitude, with a mindset that makes generous choices. John Bunyan was an English writer who penned over 60 books. Perhaps the most famous is Pilgrim’s Progress. Concerning generosity, he said,…

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Using your platform

At the end of a championship game, I’m always encouraged when the MVP or another significant athlete immediately gives a “shout out” to Jesus Christ. ◊ The Kansas City Chiefs won their fourth Super Bowl in franchise history this year. When the MVP and quarterback, Patrick Mahomes, spoke while receiving the trophy, he said, “I…

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The crushing weight of stress

You might remember the headlines last summer of a terrible ocean disaster. The “Titan,” a submersible for deep sea exploration, imploded. A tourist company, OceanGate, operated it. It was taking tourists to explore the wreck of the Titanic in the North Atlantic. Many experts had raised concerns about the safety and readiness of the “Titan.”…

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The real power of a “mission trip”

You’ve heard the phrase, “It’s not the destination, it’s the journey.” Never was this truer than when describing a “mission trip.” First, I’ll define a “mission trip” like this: It is an experience where Christians go out into the world to help those in need, whether the needs are physical or spiritual.  That definition allows me…

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Age is just a number

You’ve heard the phrase, “Age is just a number.” People who use that phrase are usually on the “high side” of that number. Be that as it may, what does it mean? It’s a statement that age doesn’t define who you are. It clearly doesn’t represent what you have accomplished. It doesn’t indicate what is…

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Hospitals

Hospitals are unique. I’m not talking about the building, but the environment, the people, and the stories written on the faces of patients and visitors alike. Few people I know want to spend any more time than necessary there except for medical folks or hospital shareholders 😀. I’ve observed that this place tends to bring…

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“Atomic Habits”

Catchy book titles grab my attention. That’s the case with the book Atomic Habits. I discovered one fresh insight that was worth reading the entire book. Here it is: Whether good or bad, habits accumulate. They have a compounding influence I did not think about before.  Positive habits associated with productivity, knowledge, and relationships can…

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March Madness

If you’re a college basketball follower, you’ll be familiar with the term “March Madness.” This expression goes back to the Illinois’ statewide high-school basketball tournament. In 1939, a spokesperson with the Illinois High School Association, Henry V. Porter, wrote an article called “March Madness.” He wrote, “A little March madness may complement and contribute to…

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Seasons

I have a favorite season of the year. Spring. I love it for all the “sappy” reasons: trees budding, flowers blooming, life emerging. Sounds like an Emerson poem. My least favorite, don’t hate me, is Autumn. Yes, beautiful leaves are changing, etc. But, for me, it’s a reminder that the cold, the starkness of the…

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The Zeigarnik effect

Chances are high that you’ve never heard of Lithuanian-Soviet psychologist Bluma Zeigarnik. I never have either, but I have heard of something called the Zeigarnik effect. This occurs when an activity you’re doing has been interrupted. This principle states that the interruption will make the activity more easily remembered. Recently it has been called the…

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Grieving well

Today’s blog has to do with a subject that many of us avoid. It’s the subject of grieving, or maybe better said, “grieving well.” We tend to think of grieving as a major season in our lives. Like the loss of a loved one or a career change. It would certainly include a divorce or…

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Foreign travel

I’m getting ready to take a team of people to El Salvador to help a local multiplier (Church planter). There are several things necessary to prepare for such a trip, especially when many have never been out of the United States before. Passports and visas are first, followed by travel insurance, tickets, lodging, state department…

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Waiting for the other shoe to drop

I talked with a wonderful friend today. She’s had her fair share of life challenges. Those challenges include breast cancer, abandonment, and some financial struggles. But, she shared today that these past six months have been the best of her life. Then she confessed, “I’m just waiting for ‘the other shoe to drop.’” I understand…

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Shoes

Imelda Marcos was the First Lady of the Philippines from 1965 to 1986. She traveled the world buying expensive shoes. Her name became synonymous for people with large shoe collections because when she fled to Hawaii she left more than 1,000 pairs of shoes and 800 handbags in Malacanang Palace. The exact number she owned…

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Reflection

An important part of each day is a moment of reflection. It is the time to pause and take stock of your day. It is the time to think about what has gone well, and what could be done better. It is a time to acknowledge and appreciate the progress you have made, and a…

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History is Written by Victors

“History is Written by Victors.” The quote gets attributed to Winston Churchill, but nobody knows ‘for sure’ who the original author was. It implies that history is not grounded in facts. Instead,  it’s the winners’ interpretation of the facts that prevail. That statement is alarming, but is it true? Clever statements get turned into present-day…

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Idioms

Language fascinates me. It’s my understanding that every language has something called idioms as part of its vocabulary. It’s an expression referring to a group of words with a figurative, non-literal meaning which can’t be understood by looking at its individual words. Here’s an example. Give someone food for thought. Now you understand you are not…

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Make your bed

You might have seen the viral video of Admiral William H. McRaven. He delivered the commencement address in May 2014 to the graduates of the University of Texas. He is a retired United States Navy four-star admiral who served as the ninth commander of the United States Special Operations Command. The speech’s theme was this:…

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Coffee

I’m about to make a colossal admission. I don’t particularly like coffee. That’s right! Those of you who know me personally would say, “No way! I see you drinking it all the time.” You would not be wrong, but I drink coffee for other reasons other than the taste of the java.  You see, I…

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A guarantee for a peaceful Christmas

Christmas can be difficult…especially the older we get. When we were young, everything was amazing, fresh, and new. There was a wonder surrounding everything. The early traditions of decorating the tree, buying the presents, caroling to neighbors, being at church all have a discovery attached to them. But here’s the reality: As a child, we…

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Patience problems

It would be fascinating to graph the ups and downs of my life. It certainly would not be a flatline. My graph would be wrought with peaks and valleys. Many of “my valleys” have to do with patience or more accurately, my lack of patience. I just lost it again. My wife encroached on “my…

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Strengths and Weaknesses

Everybody has strengths and weaknesses. This is no great insight. What is interesting to investigate is how we use our strengths and weaknesses in leadership situations. I was taught years ago that it is important to know what you do well, but not to work at making your strengths even stronger. I was taught to…

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The goal of leadership

President Ronald Reagan once said, “The greatest leader is not necessarily the one who does the greatest things. He is the one that gets the people to do the greatest things.” Now that’s a powerful and inspiring statement. It speaks to the core of great leadership. So many of us get our vision clouded by…

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Leadership never happens in a vacuum

Why are leaders so hard to find? Is that a legit question or is it something people say when they don’t do the hard work of developing leaders in their circles of influence? The answer is “It’s probably both.” On one hand, it’s difficult to find leaders with characteristics like patience, competence, awareness, accountability, dedication,…

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Dumpster diving

I’m sitting in a restaurant looking out the window to a large construction project. There are several enormous dumpsters on the site. It reminds me of an old friend who built an entire storage unit from materials he found “dumpster diving.” For those who are not familiar with the term, let me define it. It’s…

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A forgotten virtue

There are several virtues that are admired universally. I’m sure you have your list. I’ve got mine. Let’s see if you can identify one of my top values by these examples. A CEO who decides to take a personal pay cut rather than laying off employees. A couple that remains faithful to each other throughout…

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Monsoon

I live in the Southwest. Every summer around July through September, we experience what climatologists call “Monsoon.” Clouds build up in the afternoon and then a powerful wind followed by lightning and torrential rainfall. It can be spectacular. It can be dangerous. So far, this year’s monsoon is more of a “non-soon.” There are lots…

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